An Open Letter To Married Men

I’ve been meaning to talk to you for a while. This week I read something that pushed me over the edge.

As a man, I understand that I am capable of being very strong. Both physically as well as emotionally. I can handle pain as well as being picked on. Of course, my reactions often come at the expense of others. I can easily use my “force” to attempt to gain my own way. All of us have been in a fight at some point in our life. Fists were thrown. Blood was shed. Some fights were worse than others. Some of you have even hurt another in such a way that medical attention was needed. And some of you are proud of that.

Here’s where I am going though. Some of you have decided that the best way for you to live the life you want is to treat your wives like crap. You take every opportunity to let her know who’s boss, as if you are some superior being. You may actually “fight” her and this physical brawl may even lead to the need for medical attention. Really? Even worse, you’ve spoken to her in a way that makes her feel invaluable, cheap and worthless. You see, emotional abuse in my opinion is far worse. The physical bruises will heal. An emotional bruise may never heal. Who are you?

If you are a husband that has never treated his wife this way, than I am not speaking to you. I am directly speaking to those jerks that feel the need to act as if they are some glorious creature that has more rights than another. I’m sick of you. I’m tired of hearing about how you treat women. I see you everyday. I see you when I am shopping. I see the way you talk to your wife and even worse your kids. I see you online. Looking at or even posting pics and videos of women that need to be honored instead of masturbated to. I see you at church. When you come into our office and ask for us to fix your marriage cause your wife won’t do what your asking her to do.

I understand that many of you are hurting yourself. But, why in the world do you choose to hurt others to make yourself feel better! Be a man and get help. But there are many of you that don’t care. I don’t understand you. I don’t care for you. I want nothing to do with you. And yet, God says I need to show you love. I don’t like that. but I know it’s right. So, here is what I am going to do. I am going to live as an example. You can then choose whether you will continue to be an asshole or you will decide to be a real man. And, yes I am upset. Because everyday, I am watching you destroy something that God has created. Woman. The one thing you desire the most. A beautiful, loving woman is the one thing you are destroying. Don’t you see this!!!

So, again, I will choose to live by example. I will choose to speak honestly to you. I will choose to love the ones that you choose to abuse. I will choose to counsel and pray for those that you have damaged for life. I will choose to love, the good and despise the evil. I will choose to help you. But I will not help your pride and anger. I will do everything in my power to destroy it.

And I don’t care if you believe in God or not. This is not about God and yet, you can learn a lot from Jesus. Everyone knows what love and security is. When you choose to trash it, everyone sees that as well. But, God says that we as men are to love our wives as Christ loved the church. And don’t throw Ephesians 5:22 at me. Because Ephesians 5:22 doesn’t even exist without 5:25.

Men, Christ died for the church. Are you willing to die for you wife? Or, are you more intent on killing her? Because every time you yell at her and call her names. Every time you slap her or punch her. Every time you laugh at her and chop her down in front of friends. You choose to kill her. A beautiful, God created Woman. You choose to take her life.